THE BASIC NEED OF ALL HUMAN BEINGS

To be loved and cared is the basic need of all human beings.

In fact it is the basic right of one’s spiritual self and it gives satisfaction.

If man is not given his basic physical needs such as food, shelter, clothing and others,

he will suffer hardship but the hardship would not drive him crazy, make him commit suicide or kill others.

Seldom has this happened that the poor suffers mental disorder, commits suicide or resort to killing others.

But if the basic rights of one’s spiritual self is not fulfilled,

one will be spiritually impoverished and his soul would suffer.

Consequently this could lead one to suffer mental breakdown, commit suicide or kill others.

We frequently hear that children who do not get the proper attention from their parents would run away from home.

Husbands who were not entertained at home would become wild.

Wives who do not get their needed love become anguish and hostile.

The poor who hate the rich would bear malice and would even commit theft and murder.

Various kinds of societal problems would emerge if the soul is not properly managed.

If man feels he is loved, that is his need is being satisfied,

then his soul is cured until he feels strong, healthy and energetic.

He feels glad and is full of joy and happiness.

He gains an inner strength to work, study, struggle, perform tasks and others.

Indeed this would be so if the soul is strong and strengthened as the basic spiritual need is nourished.

It means that love and care from others is a supplement to the soul.

It strengthens the soul to motivate the physical to work.

A strong soul will motivate and drives the human organs to work.

On the other hand, a man with a weak soul due to the deprivation of the basic spiritual nutrition,
will be tired, listless and lonesome.

He is easily disillusioned, frustrated and disappointed.

He is like a balloon with insufficient air in it, lacks energy and power to float in the sky.

Such would be a man who possesses weak soul.

He lacks the strength that could initiate his physical parts, to be dynamic and energetic.

He is like an ailing man, too weak and feeble to face problems in life.

To look into this problem realistically, let us make a comparison between a family with all its members loving each other and a family with all its members having indifferent attitudes.

Would the situation in their life be different?

Of course the answer will be different.

The home full of love and care will be coloured with happiness, joy and beauty.

The life of each family members will be well organized and well disciplined.

Everyone performs his or her responsibility spiritedly and effectively.

We would feel comfortable in the company of such a home.

While in a home without love and care, the situation is apparently messy with crisis as well as with dispute and quarrel.

The situation looks listless, bored and disorganized.

It lacks a proper system and with each family member seems to work individually and no cooperation in building a happy family.

We would be uncomfortable in such homes.

The same situation applies in the office, factory, school, village, state, nation and the entire world.

Life would surely be different in a country where all the people shower love on each other to that of a country where its people hated each other.

Therefore, it is vital that we strive to be loved and at the same time love others.

If we are children, try to get the love of our parents.

If we were parents, make sure that our children love us.

Only then there exist in a home where parents love their children and the children love their parents.

Again, if we are the husbands, we must make the effort so that our wives love us.

If we are the wives, we must make the effort so that our husbands love us.

If we are school teachers, we should attempt to get the love of our students and in return the students must attempt to love their teachers.

Leaders must attempt to make their followers love them while followers must find ways to make their leaders love them.

In a village or a country where the society is poly-ethnic, each ethnic group must attempt to get the love of other ethnic groups so that there will be national unity and peace.

When there is an effort by both parties to fulfill the instinctive needs, in both directions, then everybody would taste happiness and contentment in life.

With that will emerge a sense of togetherness and an attitude to co-operate with one another.

Hence, a secured society and civilization would then be established. insya-allah (God willing).

A true caring society surely would be most forgiving if there are faults and mistakes among members.

Each mistake will not be exaggerated and inflated.

Neither would it be a problem.

Everybody would be tolerant and there will be a lot of give and take.

In fact, each member would be even willing to sacrifice his personal interest for the sake of others.

Within such a society, crisis and animosity would be kept to minimum.

Societal illness such as malice, suppression, backstabbing, fraud, cruelty, prejudice, quarrelsome, war and so on could be overcome or at least it would rarely occur.

All these are due to the existence of love and care.

This is a peaceful, prosperous and harmonious society that we have discussed and dreamed of. In the Quran, ALLAH says:

“‘A territory fair and happy, and a Lord Oft-Forgiving. ”

(Sura Saba’: 15)

This is the state of the world that could be called a paradise- that is a transitory paradise (called the Al-Jannatul Ajilah).

If man succeeds in building paradise in this world, there would be an opportunity for him to strive for the real Paradise after his death.

However, to strive for that Paradise is more difficult.

Nevertheless, if one could not even achieve this transitory Paradise, there is no hope for him to get that real Paradise in the world Hereafter.

So, let us think and strive to achieve this transitory paradise first.

Truly, the world today is not yet a transitory paradise but it is more of a hell.

Today’s world is filled with tales of war, murder, aggression, suppression, cruelty, ill-deeds, immorality and vice.

Goodness is minimal, love and care is almost non-existence, whilst justice, peace, security and happiness have become oblivious.

This is not called paradise.

Man’s soul suffers because it is not given its nutrition.

But if only the physical poverty is being the concern while impoverishment of the soul is not solved, life will be lopsided.

The physical and spiritual no longer coincide or parallel each other.

On the surface they are interacting and they live together in one society,

but their hearts are empty, disunited and prejudiced, harbor spite, full of malice, hatred, stinginess and others.

In the Holy Quran, it is stated:

“Thou wouldst think they were united, but their hearts are divided. ”

(Sura Al-Hashr: 14)

People work but in a condition of force;

they interact and smile involuntarily, work involuntarily, obey instruction involuntarily.

Eventually there emerges a society where life is full of hypocrisy as a result of a diseased heart which has infected the social life.

When people work under pressure, the fruits of labour would be futile.

Development and success is just empty rhetoric.

Everybody thinks about their own self interests which are limitless until the people and society are neglected without due attention and care.

This is what is happening now.

Realizing this fact, let us struggle and sacrifice to redevelop a life of love and care.

Let us ponder why people do not love us and why we also do not love others.
Why others are angry at us and we are angry at others?

How and what must be done so that others can love us and we also can love others?

What is the secret so that we can attempt to love others and be loved?

What are the motivation and hopes to strive in building this society of love and care?

ABUYA

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AN INSIGHT ON BEAUTIFUL POLYGAMY IN ISLAM

What is Polygamy?

Polygamy is a way of life in a family as commanded by God. For Allah and Rasul, life as a family is polygamy. While monogamy is the last choice. To have one wife is meant only for the people who are too weak to be fair leaders. Polygamy is actually needed by both men and women.

Woman who loves God absolutely requires polygamy. This is because between the responsibility towards God and responsibility towards her husband, polygamy is the way for her to fulfill it. That is submission towards God, love with God and sacrifice for God will be most practical when our lifestyle is polygamy. Polygamy provides many great deal and wide opportunities for one to demonstrate that one’s life is only for the sake of God. Whoever prays in the real sense of the word will surely never miss this opportunity. This is because a prayer states that life is only for God.

Polygamy trains women to say:

God, the match whom You bestow upon me, this husband of mine, I am blessed to have him so that I can be more thankful to You. So, I will prove it to You, that a husband is a leader and a wife is an obedient follower. This leader who can lead more than one wife, I will share all the pleasures I receive from my husband and this household with another woman who also needs it. For the sake of obeying Your commands O Lord, so that my love for You is verified and also for the sake of getting Your acceptance O Lord. And so that the Prophet’s Sunnah is my Sunnah too. That is polygamy is helping woman to free herself from the nafs ammarah. That is polygamy is the most effective cure to obtain God’s love. The hardships in polygamy is indeed needed to cleanse the heart from the evil and filthy nafs. Whoever wishes to die as someone who brings along a protected heart, will certainly choose polygamy as a way of life. With regards to this protected heart, Allah has revealed in Al Quran, meaning:

” On that day ( Day of Reckoning ) wealth and children will not be of any use unless you bring along a protected heart.” ( As Syu’ara: 88-89 )

What do men need polygamy? Yes, it is for the men to say, ” For the sake of God, I will demonstrate that a man is capable of marrying 4 women, to lead them to God, to totally fulfill the love and care and their welfare, to provide many children and to make them feeling satisfied and contented with all these. With the condition that You care to be with me throughout my entire life, O Allah. O Lord, You are Most Just, please make me into a leader who is fair and just.”

God, whenever there exist a man and women who possess the hearts mentioned earlier, then they will be united in a marriage so that a harmonious and beautiful polygamy will take place as what You meant. Al Quran and Hadith will then be practiced as a way of life. Then, appear a live and moving Al Quran and Hadith, implementing an Islamic way of life. The Pillars of Faith and the Pillars of Islam become alive within the pillars of life of human. And it is the beginning of Islamic resurgence on God’s earth. Amin, O Allah.

ABUYA ASHAARI MUHAMMAD AT TAMIMI

 

EVERYONE NEEDS LOVE AND CARE

Why is the world today in this state and condition?

Why are the differences and divisions of human beings into various ethnic groups, languages, nations, religions, culture, skin colour and social status, separate rather than unite the people?

They are all homo sapiens, descendants of Adam and Eve.

Why do not these people live together in harmony, know each other well, be communicative and cooperative,
have a sense of belonging towards each other, be united and live like brothers and sisters?

After all, their feelings and needs are similar.

Why is there a huge obstacle that hinders communication between the continents,
so much so that it is totally cut-off?

Why is not there a sense of being in one big family among the people in a country?

Such a life is led by people who have lost the guidance to build a united society,
to work together and to help each other.

Whereas such guidance is required to develop an ideal life of togetherness
and to cater for their common interest so that continents, countries and individuals are able to co-exist.

Then only human society will be seen to be different from that of animals and plants.

Humans are then able to live in harmony and happiness as well as to experience universal peace and security. secure or peaceful as one family.

Neither can they see the beauty of staying together.

How do we save this situation?

If it is not saved, the world will be ruined. Man will lose his humanity and live in hell, one that he himself creates.

The key that could solve this problem and reduce its complexity is love and care.

Man, regardless of his race, language, religion and skin colour, wherever he may be and whatever status he possesses in society, is born with the instinct to love and to be loved.

If he feels that he is loved by others even though the person is from a different race or religion, he will be touched by it.

It makes him happy and he finds it easy to get along with that person.

A cruel leader if showered with love by his followers or people will become more humane and gentle.

If children express their love to a violent father, he will eventually turn soft and gentle.

This is the secret.

He is born with the need to be loved.

This is what we call natural instinct.

Love would bring continents and countries closer to each other.

It would tie men to become brothers even though they come from different races and have different languages, culture, religion, skin colour, social status and so on.

The need to be loved and the existence of such feelings in every man’s heart is endowed by ALLAH since the day he was born.

ALLAH who creates man on earth has provided these feelings of love and care in every man.

Man need not learn, request or work for it.

It is there in him right from the moment he was born.

This is known as instinctive feeling which is a natural characteristic.

Everybody, men and women have it either they are a leader or follower, parent or child, husband or wife, teacher or student regardless of their race and religion.

With this instinctive feeling, man is actually one and equal.

This need to be loved is a universal feeling.

It puts mankind in one single row and there is no difference between them.

If this feeling exists amongst them, they will unite and be considerate towards each other.

Thus, this is how it should be because that is what every soul needs.

It is the basic spiritual rights of all mankind that must be fulfilled.

There is no man who does not need it.

In fact, without it, man will lose his happiness.

Children will not be happy if they do not get love from their parents.

Similarly, parents too will suffer if their children do not love them.

Students will not be happy if they do not get love from their teachers.

Likewise, teachers too would suffer if their students do not love them.

Wives like to be loved by their husbands.

While husbands would suffer if their wives do not love them.

Leaders too, would want to be loved.

So do followers, friends and vice versa.

In short, everybody needs love from someone.

It makes them happy if they are loved.

Otherwise, he will feel disappointed and empty.

However, man today seems to be the victims of unfortunate circumstances, because they don’t get what they need most.

Husbands do not get the love they want from their wives.

Wives too do not get love from their husbands because both husbands and wives do not know how to shower love, although love is what they need.

This is what mankind suffers throughout the world.

As a result, they become tensed, restless, emotional, frustrated and some would even commit suicide.

Even though he is rich, highly knowledgeable or highly ranked, he expects to be loved.

Yet he himself does not know how to love others.

Thus, because of that, he is not loved by others.

When you hurt somebody, others will feel hurt, too.

They will lose their sympathy and respect for you.

Eventually, feelings of hatred and annoyance will grow and worsen.

Love will then totally perish.

Such is the condition of the world today.

Men would live together in a society but they are always in conflict with each other. Instead of love, hatred becomes the order of the society.

Life would be empty and the people would suffer.

How would we solve this problem?

Where would we find a way out?

ABUYA

DU’AS FROM THE NOBLE QUR’AN

In the name of Allah, the Most Compassionate, Most Merciful

Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Universe

Sovereign of the Day of Judgement

You alone we worship and to You alone we turn for help

Guide us to the straight path

The path of whom  ( the righteous people ) You have favoured

Not of those who have incurred Your wrath ( nafs and satan )

Nor of those who have gone astray ( the Jews and the Christians )  – AL FATIHAH ( The Exordium)

May Allah grant peace and blessings upon the Beloved Prophet Muhammad SAW, his Family members, his Companions and his followers

O Lord, we have wronged ourselves. If You forgive us not, and bestow not upon us Your Mercy, we shall certainly be of the losers. ( Al A’raf 7: 23 )

O Lord, please  forgive us and our brethren who have preceded us in faith, and put not in our hearts any hatred against those who have believed. Our Lord! You are indeed full of kindness, Most Merciful. ( Al Hashr 59 : 10)

O my Lord! Make me one who performs As salat and ( also ) from my offspring, our Lord! and please accept  my invovation

O Lord ! Please forgive me and my parents and ( all ) the believers on the Day when the reckoning will be established. ( Ibrahim 14 :  40, 41 )

Our Lord ! Punish us not if we forget or fall into error, our Lord! Lay not on us a burden like that which You did lay on those before us ( Jews and Christians ). Our Lord ! Put not on us a burden greater that we have strength to bear. Pardon us and grant us Forgiveness. Have mercy on us. You are our Maula ( Patron, Supporter and Protector, etc ) and give us victory over the disbelieving people. ( Al Baqarah 2 : 286 )

O Allah, grant peace ad blessings upon our beloved Prophet Muhammad SAW, his family, his companions and his congregation. Glory be to Allah from all of their evil thoughts. Peace and blessing for all the Prophets and Allah is the Owner of the entire Universe. Ameen.