AN INSIGHT ON BEAUTIFUL POLYGAMY IN ISLAM

What is Polygamy?

Polygamy is a way of life in a family as commanded by God. For Allah and Rasul, life as a family is polygamy. While monogamy is the last choice. To have one wife is meant only for the people who are too weak to be fair leaders. Polygamy is actually needed by both men and women.

Woman who loves God absolutely requires polygamy. This is because between the responsibility towards God and responsibility towards her husband, polygamy is the way for her to fulfill it. That is submission towards God, love with God and sacrifice for God will be most practical when our lifestyle is polygamy. Polygamy provides many great deal and wide opportunities for one to demonstrate that one’s life is only for the sake of God. Whoever prays in the real sense of the word will surely never miss this opportunity. This is because a prayer states that life is only for God.

Polygamy trains women to say:

God, the match whom You bestow upon me, this husband of mine, I am blessed to have him so that I can be more thankful to You. So, I will prove it to You, that a husband is a leader and a wife is an obedient follower. This leader who can lead more than one wife, I will share all the pleasures I receive from my husband and this household with another woman who also needs it. For the sake of obeying Your commands O Lord, so that my love for You is verified and also for the sake of getting Your acceptance O Lord. And so that the Prophet’s Sunnah is my Sunnah too. That is polygamy is helping woman to free herself from the nafs ammarah. That is polygamy is the most effective cure to obtain God’s love. The hardships in polygamy is indeed needed to cleanse the heart from the evil and filthy nafs. Whoever wishes to die as someone who brings along a protected heart, will certainly choose polygamy as a way of life. With regards to this protected heart, Allah has revealed in Al Quran, meaning:

” On that day ( Day of Reckoning ) wealth and children will not be of any use unless you bring along a protected heart.” ( As Syu’ara: 88-89 )

What do men need polygamy? Yes, it is for the men to say, ” For the sake of God, I will demonstrate that a man is capable of marrying 4 women, to lead them to God, to totally fulfill the love and care and their welfare, to provide many children and to make them feeling satisfied and contented with all these. With the condition that You care to be with me throughout my entire life, O Allah. O Lord, You are Most Just, please make me into a leader who is fair and just.”

God, whenever there exist a man and women who possess the hearts mentioned earlier, then they will be united in a marriage so that a harmonious and beautiful polygamy will take place as what You meant. Al Quran and Hadith will then be practiced as a way of life. Then, appear a live and moving Al Quran and Hadith, implementing an Islamic way of life. The Pillars of Faith and the Pillars of Islam become alive within the pillars of life of human. And it is the beginning of Islamic resurgence on God’s earth. Amin, O Allah.

ABUYA ASHAARI MUHAMMAD AT TAMIMI

 

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EVERYONE NEEDS LOVE AND CARE

Why is the world today in this state and condition?

Why are the differences and divisions of human beings into various ethnic groups, languages, nations, religions, culture, skin colour and social status, separate rather than unite the people?

They are all homo sapiens, descendants of Adam and Eve.

Why do not these people live together in harmony, know each other well, be communicative and cooperative,
have a sense of belonging towards each other, be united and live like brothers and sisters?

After all, their feelings and needs are similar.

Why is there a huge obstacle that hinders communication between the continents,
so much so that it is totally cut-off?

Why is not there a sense of being in one big family among the people in a country?

Such a life is led by people who have lost the guidance to build a united society,
to work together and to help each other.

Whereas such guidance is required to develop an ideal life of togetherness
and to cater for their common interest so that continents, countries and individuals are able to co-exist.

Then only human society will be seen to be different from that of animals and plants.

Humans are then able to live in harmony and happiness as well as to experience universal peace and security. secure or peaceful as one family.

Neither can they see the beauty of staying together.

How do we save this situation?

If it is not saved, the world will be ruined. Man will lose his humanity and live in hell, one that he himself creates.

The key that could solve this problem and reduce its complexity is love and care.

Man, regardless of his race, language, religion and skin colour, wherever he may be and whatever status he possesses in society, is born with the instinct to love and to be loved.

If he feels that he is loved by others even though the person is from a different race or religion, he will be touched by it.

It makes him happy and he finds it easy to get along with that person.

A cruel leader if showered with love by his followers or people will become more humane and gentle.

If children express their love to a violent father, he will eventually turn soft and gentle.

This is the secret.

He is born with the need to be loved.

This is what we call natural instinct.

Love would bring continents and countries closer to each other.

It would tie men to become brothers even though they come from different races and have different languages, culture, religion, skin colour, social status and so on.

The need to be loved and the existence of such feelings in every man’s heart is endowed by ALLAH since the day he was born.

ALLAH who creates man on earth has provided these feelings of love and care in every man.

Man need not learn, request or work for it.

It is there in him right from the moment he was born.

This is known as instinctive feeling which is a natural characteristic.

Everybody, men and women have it either they are a leader or follower, parent or child, husband or wife, teacher or student regardless of their race and religion.

With this instinctive feeling, man is actually one and equal.

This need to be loved is a universal feeling.

It puts mankind in one single row and there is no difference between them.

If this feeling exists amongst them, they will unite and be considerate towards each other.

Thus, this is how it should be because that is what every soul needs.

It is the basic spiritual rights of all mankind that must be fulfilled.

There is no man who does not need it.

In fact, without it, man will lose his happiness.

Children will not be happy if they do not get love from their parents.

Similarly, parents too will suffer if their children do not love them.

Students will not be happy if they do not get love from their teachers.

Likewise, teachers too would suffer if their students do not love them.

Wives like to be loved by their husbands.

While husbands would suffer if their wives do not love them.

Leaders too, would want to be loved.

So do followers, friends and vice versa.

In short, everybody needs love from someone.

It makes them happy if they are loved.

Otherwise, he will feel disappointed and empty.

However, man today seems to be the victims of unfortunate circumstances, because they don’t get what they need most.

Husbands do not get the love they want from their wives.

Wives too do not get love from their husbands because both husbands and wives do not know how to shower love, although love is what they need.

This is what mankind suffers throughout the world.

As a result, they become tensed, restless, emotional, frustrated and some would even commit suicide.

Even though he is rich, highly knowledgeable or highly ranked, he expects to be loved.

Yet he himself does not know how to love others.

Thus, because of that, he is not loved by others.

When you hurt somebody, others will feel hurt, too.

They will lose their sympathy and respect for you.

Eventually, feelings of hatred and annoyance will grow and worsen.

Love will then totally perish.

Such is the condition of the world today.

Men would live together in a society but they are always in conflict with each other. Instead of love, hatred becomes the order of the society.

Life would be empty and the people would suffer.

How would we solve this problem?

Where would we find a way out?

ABUYA